I can see the big picture

I often wonder what it is I can do to help people break through there bicameral ways. It is especially hard today in this anticivilization as I watch my sister in law mourn the death of her sister. Her sister died today after a 2 year battle with cancer. She was a beautiful 40 year old mother of 2 young children. What can I say to my sister in law to help ease her pain. Although I can see the big picture, the pieces of the puzzle are not filling in fast enough for me. I guess, today I realized how every day that passes in the anticivilization is a day that is wasted. Wasted, because it is a day that could be a C of U day.